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On Oprah today they talk to real couples about what’s NOT going on in the bedroom and why.
And, what really caught my attention in the trailer was this woman who refuses to kiss her own husband said the THOUGHT of kissing her husband made her skin crawl.  Another couple hasn’t had sex in 2 1/2 year.  (I think I would shrivel and wilt.)
Anyway, I’m going to DVR it because I’m so very interested in how these couples got to where they are and why this women won’t even kiss her hubs!

It’s so sad.  Yet, so true.  Rose petal confetti can stain your – oh so pretty – wedding dress.  Of course, I’m only taking about real rose petals here. 

After our ceremony, we had our guests toss red and white rose petals as we walked down the aisle as husband and wife. <SIGH>  I was absolutely smitten with the idea.  How romantic, right?  When I see the video and pictures I’ll let you know if it WAS a good idea or not.  Decision still pending!  (Everything was such a blur, that I can’t say for sure!)

But if I had been wearing satin or silk, the red stains from the rose petals would’ve been noticeable.  But, since I was wearing something with more tulle, you couldn’t see the stains.  Well, unless you scrutinized my dress from top to bottom.  (And if anyone did, I didn’t notice and really, couldn’t have cared!)

And, we were sooo careful not to put the rose petals in a place where they would retain moisture.  But, it happened anyways.  So, despite how careful you are, there is the possibility that those pretty little petals will leave their not-so-pretty little fingerprints on that dress of yours. 

I would definitely recommend using silk rose petals if you’re planning to do rose petal confetti.  Yeah, your guests will know they’re not real, but they’re not going to care or remember.  And, it beats staining your dress – right before the reception!


So.  I have to admit.  One of the reasons I drove myself mad with the wedding invitations was because I didn’t check my l’il ole etiquette book. 

Lesson #1
A couple weeks ago, I thought I’d get ahead of the wedding invitation game by printing-up addresses on the envelopes.  Well, apparently, I had addressed all the Miss’ as Ms’.  I had even addressed my 12-year-old niece as a Ms.  What was I thinking?  Well, I don’t know?  I can’t even blame the glass of wine that accompanied me throughout that tedius process.  I know better.  I really do.  I edit and write for a living.  And, I know this rule! 

So you know what I had to do?  I had to order more envelopes.  TWICE.   Yes.  you read it right.  Mamma’s a moron. 

So, here’s my first little etiquette lesson…  Ensure you’re addressing the envelope correctly before printing those bad boys.  

For a good all-around etiquette lession, I found the PERFECT post on A Practical Wedding.  Check it out.  Then, come back.  Meg is awesome… And, so PRACTICAL!

Lesson #2
When you address a wedding envelope you should not abbreviate the words Street, Drive, Boulevard, etc.  Also, no abbreviations with city names, such as Sterling Hts. (Heights) or Clinton Twp. (Township).  Now, I don’t consider this to be a make-it or break-it, you better toss those envies out rule.  But, for those people you know will notice, then yeah, follow the rule. 

And then, as I was inspecting each invitation… I found there were some envelopes that didn’t have people’s last name.  (And, those must’ve been printed later into the evening… say during my second glass of wine.)

Lesson #3
For some reason, I was under the impression that were you supposed to include your registry information with the wedding invitation.  This is not true.  Apparently, etiquette says this is not so proper. 

So, there you have it.  Etiquette was half the battle.  My advice is to do it right the first time! 

I didn’t.  And.  I drove myself mad hatter mad.

I’m not going to lie.  I love my last name.  And, really, it’s part of who I am.  I’ve had it for the last 31 years or so!  I can’t imagine that one day <<POOF>> it’s gone.  But, I also believe in having one family name – me, Bug,  – same last name.  What sparked this post is what I read on Canadian Bride’s blog about the name change struggle.  Check it out and come back!

Even when I was a little girl, I couldn’t imagine giving-up my name.  So, I’ve been thinking about this name change thing for a while.  And, a couple of months ago I was struggling with the idea of hyphenating my name.  But, really, that would make for a loooong name.   So, I decided on a less traditional course of action… I’m ditching my middle name, which is Marie.  (Who the hell is Marie anyway?)  As you can probably guess, I’m not particularly attached to it anyway.  So, come name change time, see ya Marie!  I’ll simply insert my lifelong family name in place of “Marie” followed by my new hubby’s last name. 

But I understand the struggle.  It’s a hard decision.  But, what it comes down to is that it’s a personal choice.  Do what you want, no matter what anyone else says!

I know I’ve talked to some of you about the name change thing?  What will you do?

You can do that too!  But what I’m talking about here are fresh ideas for Date Night!  As you all know (I’m sure), is that when you’ve been with someone for any length of time, it’s easy to fall into the same old dumb routine!  (I’m quoting the Pina Colada Song here). 

Just this morning Kenny and I were talking about re-establishing a date night, but that we need to get away from the norm!  Well, low and behold, we’re not the only ones!  Fiance actually came across this article Fresh, Fun and Sexy Date Ideas on  (How sweet he is to send it to me, right?!)  Check out the article!  There are some great ideas…

Here’s some of my fav’s:

1. Have a DIY dinner. Set up a taco bar with all the fixings or make homemade pizza. “Creating something together is interactive, so it brings you closer,” says relationship therapist Sandra Anne Taylor, author of Act to Attract.

2. Plan wine-tasting excursion and hit a local vineyard to find a new favorite.

(Image Source: There's tons of places around Metro Detroit that offer wine tastings... Big Rock Chop House is one of my favorites!

5. Go on an edu-date. Taking classes on anything from Italian to film bonds you and introduces you to new things.  (Kenny just mentioned something like this!)

7. Play around-the-world cocktails. Sample one specialty drink from a wine bar, one from a pub, and another from a Russian vodka room. Take a taxi.

10. Pamper yourselves with a couples massage at a day spa. “It’s a relaxing, sensual experience that can put you in an amorous mood as well,” says Janice Levine, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Lexington, Massachusetts.

12. Want to know if you have a future with your guy? Visit a psychic. You don’t have to buy into her predictions, but at least you’ll have a good laugh. 

(Image source: Psychic Reading...How fun would that be?

 14. Test your luck at a nearby casino or horse race. Bring only a set amount of cash that you can afford to lose.  (Horse Races would be FUN! )

The Date Night List originally appeared in Cosmo.

<Gulp> I’m ashamed to admit this. <Blush> But, I think I was a little Zilla Monster-ish the other day during my fourth ( fourth mind you) florist meeting.  And let me tell you, I felt horrible the next day, and well, guilty and embaressed.  While other factors played into why I turned into a Zilla, there are no excuses.  Planning a wedding can be stressful, but it should also be enjoyable!  What I feel most embarressed about is that I made my mom feel bad and in front of the florist, no less. <Crimson Blush>   And, while we have polar opposite tastes, she has been extremely supportive and helpful with the wedding planning.  She’s been incredibly resourceful and patient and wonderful!  And, she’s been by biggest champion every day for the last 31 years!  


Zilla Monster Siting: If you see an incredibly irriatable bride2be, please administer her a dose of reality!

And, get this, when I called her and emailed her the next morning, guilt-ridden, this is what she said:  

“Hey…don’t fret too much… you’ll get your stress level under control.  You just have to figure out a way to make decisions, hire people you trust to do the work and let the rest fall into place.  That way you can enjoy your special day.  Because, you know things will go wrong!!!  You have to have faith in your vendors!  I love you Baby!  Remember my Motto???  Let’s Just Try to Enjoy the Ride!”

And, she’s right n having faith in the people/vendors you choose for your wedding.   And up to this point, I’ve had such conviction with my vendor choices.  I need to get back to that, and trust that one of these fantastic florists will bring my vision to life.  And, if it’s not PERFECT, it’s not the end of the world. 

Thanks mom!  You’re pretty amazing.  I love you!

Not on her wedding day, they don’t!  

I’m personally not worried about this – And not because I think I’m ALL THAT – I just can’t recall ever going to a wedding where someone did trump the bride… Believe me, I’ve heard of girls who tried to!  Crazy, isn’t it?

But, who knows what your circumstances might be?  There are some crazies out there who like to try and trump the bride. (Yes, I call them CRAZIES.)  And, well, others are related to local or all-out celebrities.  If that were the case, what would you do in that situation?   

Here’s a great answer from… I love this Answer!

Question: One of my cousins is a local newscaster, and I’m afraid she’s going to upstage me and my fiancé at the wedding. Will it seem rude if I don’t invite her? This is my day, after all.

Answer: C’mon, now. You’re considering withholding an invitation to a family member because you’re worried that you won’t be the star of the show? Take a deep breath and listen up: At a wedding, no one—no matter how famous—can take the spotlight away from the bride and groom. All eyes will be focused on the two of you. At the same time, having a little celebrity glamour adds a fun buzz factor.

Good answer, isn’t it?  Do any of you have any ridiculous “bride upstaging stories?  If so, leave a comment!

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Married September 19, 2009

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I love my guy. I love my town. I could have a torrid affair with every cake, cookie and cupcake I come across. I love sharing a good bottle wine with good people! And, I truly enjoy blogging about wedding finds. Which is why...

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When planning my wedding I loved researching and stalking out Metro Detroit venues, vendors and other finds. Now that I'm married, I'd like to turn this blog into a Metro Detroit Wedding resource for all of you. So, change is coming soon!

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